You can be working at all hours of the night, squirreling cash like mad and start a side business, but you ain’t gonna get rich if you don’t have people rallying on your side.
You see, being wealthy isn’t just about the tactics and know-how. No, my friend. It’s just as much your environment more than anything.
Think about it: when you have everyone around you telling you it’s impossible to make money online for a living, can you succeed? In other words, is the energy around you causing you to sink or swim?
Having troops rally around you, even if they’re not always directly encouraging you, will do wonders for your mindset. I know that if it weren’t for the amazing people I have around me, I wouldn’t be standing here today and feeling so excited about my financial future.
These people help you from playing the shame game with your financial life. They’re also the ones to push you towards your goals and dreams.
So yes, you need these four types of people in your life.
In a nutshell, you can pretty much tell this person you fears, hopes, desires, wants and celebrations. You feel so comfortable with them that you’re not afraid of sharing it all because he or she won’t judge you.
These people may not be in the position as you financially or have a desire to change, but they’ll be there for you and can understand your ambitions. Think of them as the shoulder to cry on, the person who says “I understand,” and one that will take time for you.
The #1 Fan
Yup, you guessed it. These types of people know you’re capable of so freakin’ much and and know how much potential you have. As in you are a badass!
These people are also positive pollys who’ll celebrate any win, no matter how tiny you have. They’ll even offer you encouragement as well as a shoulder to cry on.
Basically, when you don’t feel like believing in yourself, your fans will.
Yeah, they’ll probably say things like “You go girl!” or “Go get em!”
The Role Model
You may not actually talk with this person, but they have a regular presence in your live. These people show you that it’s possible to do more, be more and have more.
These people could be mentors that directly show you what to do, or authors of books you read, or people you see on TV that have done what you want to do. Heck, even reading blogs or listening to podcasts *ahem* qualifies as mentorship.
For me, I aim to read at least a book a week from someone I admire. Even reading biographies of successful entrepreneurs gets me all jazzed up.
The Delivery Person
These are the type of people who literally hand you opportunities (and by extension money) on your lap. I’m not talking about your employer. These could be colleagues who mention promotion opportunities, acquaintances who tell you about business opportunities. Or even, give you a once in a lifetime opportunity to advance yourself, personally and professionally.
When I first launched this site, I didn’t believe I had anything truly valuable to offer (oh, how I laugh at this now). I was part of a group full of people in the media space and a person who runs the conference for personal finance media reach out to me. Long story short, I landed on the main stage at the conference talking about my money story.
How Do I Know If I Have These People In My Life?
Good question. You probably already do. As with all things, the first step is awareness, so start by writing down a list of everyone you interact with often, including coworkers, neighbors (but not pets).
Once you have that, grab a piece of paper (or open up a spreadsheet if you’re into that kind of stuff) and put them into categories. If some of them happen to not fall into any of those categories, put another spot called “naysayer” and stick them there.
Now take a look at your list. How many of the four types of people are in your circle? Looking at the number of people in each category, see which types seem to be lacking.
Do you need to find more people to show you what’s possible? Or do you only have one confidant to share your wins and insecurities with?
When I did this exercise, it was so eye opening as to why I felt like I was on the struggle bus for months. I realized I actually had no confidants (besides my husband) whom I can share worries and concerns with when it came to my business and finances. Once I sought more of them out, it was no coincidence that my income skyrocketed.
What About Those Negative People?
Yeah, those naysayers can really break your money mindset. They suck and the reality is that you’ll always encounter people like that. The important thing is to realize that while they have their own opinions, you don’t have to share them. Some may actively decide to dissuade you from your dreams or just complain so much that they drain your energy.
While it may be hard, you’ll just need to find a way to distance yourself from them. I know, some of these people may be family members or close acquaintances. Trust me, I’m in the same boat myself.
The solution is to keep seeking positive people and when you do encounter someone negative, they won’t affect you as much.
Like they say, it takes a village. And how true that is. Now go on, go forth and conquer in your financial life with your allies by your side.